Welcome to Tea with DidiApr 21, 2019
Children are like sponges and absorb everything around them. When the atmosphere is thick with discord, the children feel like a toxic dumping ground of their parent’s unhappiness that emotion leaves deep scars. Even when you don’t fight in front of them, they know that you are both very unhappy and that seeps into them. Children deserve to be brought up in a home where there is love, happiness and joy.
According to this article from Scientific American, most children of divorce also do well in the longer term. In a quantitative review of the literature in 2001, sociologist Paul R. Amato (Pennsylvania State University), examined the possible effects on children several years after a divorce. The studies compared children of married parents with divorced parents at different ages. The investigators followed these kids into later childhood, adolescence or the teenage years, assessing their academic achievement, emotional and behavior problems, delinquency, self-esteem and social relationships. On average, the studies found only very small differences on all these measures between children of divorced parents and those from intact families, suggesting that the vast majority of children endure divorce well.
Socially, people want to interact with others who are happy and satisfied. Disguising your unhappiness over the long term does not serve anyone.
Examine your relationship closely and stay together if there is hope of happiness, not for the sake of kids or society. The former actually hurts and honestly the latter does not care.
AUTHOR: Akila Kumar