Welcome to Tea with DidiApr 21, 2019
That is not true – you did get very angry with your parents, but were not permitted to express it and bottled up frustration is not necessarily a good thing. Expressing frustration in itself is not intrinsically bad, as long as they can be taught to keep it civil.
Talking back happens due to three reasons:
Parenting is never easy, and this is important. Don’t lose your temper and yell at them. It teaches them that you can be provoked rather easily. Count to 10 and calmly tell them that speaking the way they are doing is unacceptable. If they are doing that in front of others remove them and tell them that you will talk to them later. When things are calm, sit down with them and ask them why they talked back to you. Understand the back story. If they have issues, teach them to deal with it.
Explain to them that they are hurting your feelings when they speak disrespectfully to you. Tell them that you will love them no matter what they do, but your behavior towards them is determined by the way they treat you.
Author: Akila Kumar and Anoo Nathan